‘I miss my little one a lot’: How father love motivates change in men who have used violence

Abstract

This paper presents selected findings from a research-based evaluation of a men's domestic violence intervention program aimed at assisting men in developing alternative ways of relating to their partners, children, and others. The qualitative component of the evaluation involved interviews with 21 group participants after completing the program, investigating several issues, including their perceptions of relationships with their children. <br><br> The primary theme that emerged from discussions was the expression of love, with fathers identifying their love for their children as a key motivation to stop using violence and develop alternative ways of relating to their families. The study highlights the potential for father-child relationships to serve as powerful motivators for behavioural change. Recognising the impact of violent behaviour on children’s wellbeing and father-child relationships, the study argues that intervention programs can support men in adopting non-violent parenting approaches and safeguarding children from long-term consequences of domestic abuse.